I asked a question on Facebook earlier this month, asking if we have a problem with white men in this country. A friend had asked me this and I was curious what kind of response I would get. Needless to say, this varied and got more and more intense over time:
They certainly don’t have a problem. They are arrested without being shot and can prepare the story of their own crime.
I cannot agree with this. I know a lot of white men who are not racist, sexist, degrading, or hateful. I also know white men who ARE like this. It’s not a white man’s problem. We have a social problem. With everyone. None of us are innocent. None of us are special. Painting a group of people with the same brush, whether it is white, brown, black or purple, is wrong. This is what we are trying to stop!
ONE BILLION PERCENT!
I think we have at least one white male privilege problem. Too many of them feel oppressed, simply because others want the same rights or because they are called out for their racist, misogynistic, homophobic or transphobic words and actions. Some of those oversized baby men react violently, and that’s definitely a problem.
Just add guns.
Each of you who agreed with this post is a racist. You are all a bunch of stupid, racist assholes. You do not understand the meaning of the word racism. Melissa Carter, I’m deleting you for this post. I don’t want to be friends with racists.
I wasn’t trying to argue for the sake of arguing. I did indeed want to bring up the subject because I myself am raising a white man. Vilifying this group of people, I think, sets a dangerous precedent, because it seems the only group that can be outright insulted without backlash is a white man. But what is it for?
On the other hand, if an epidemic of mass shootings and hate crimes were perpetrated by another group, we would argue that we have a “terrorism” or “angry woman” problem. It turns out that many white men succumb to the temptation to eliminate a large group of people in anger and violence. So why can’t we recognize the problem from this group in order to fix the problem?
I was conducting an interview for my podcast and it was suggested to me by the guest’s teenage son that I read “Boys Will Be Men” by Paul Kivel. I have to admit it was a breath of fresh air, as the author tackles topics such as racism, homophobia, pornography, and the ‘act like a man’ mentality.
The ultimate goal is for all of us to come together and enjoy each other’s company. Still, I’m concerned that many don’t get this point and continue to label themselves and split into factions of people like them and stay there forever. Nature itself is built on the idea that growth and strength come from coming together, and as soon as we can get out of this sporting event, good team bad team mentality, the faster we can really heal and create a world. best for girls. and the boys watch what we do.